We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.Albert Einstein
- Individual regular face-to-face meetings.
- Extremely effective way to reach goals, exceed one’s limits, move beyond stiff concepts.
- Individualized approach taking into account personality, communication system and motivation, values and goals.
- Regular meetings strenghtening change.
- „Working” on what’s really essential and important for introducing change.
- Process of strengthening inner resources of creativity.
- Based on strengths and resources.
- Continuous focus on future and solution.
- Elaborating plans of specific actions leading to achieving goal.
Provocative style is a powerful combination of brave humour, creativity, confrontation, empathy and kinddness. It is a little like playful teasing and badinage with friends. It engages emotions into change. It unmasks stereotypes, unrealistic assuptions and false convictions. Thanks to it, one can look at problems from a different perspective, very often in a completely new way.
Provocative coach uses reaction for a challenge which is natural for his client. From provocative coaching clients can expect that:
- They will learn to distance themselves from their own problems and even laught at them in a healthy way.
- They will be able to find on their own new solutions by objecting to “crazy’ provocative coaching.
- They will get to know and accept the very parts of themselves that the were afraid of talking about.
- They will look at life from a more realistic point of view.
- They will become more assertive, even if they don’t consciusely try to achieve it.
- They will discover power and force which was blocked by fear.
- They will stop looking for explanations and start working on change.
- They will start looking for new solutions.
Clients experience their relationship with provocative coach/therapist as an extraordinary adventure.
Therapist uses humour to sinsitize, but also to desensitize his client to cognitive emotional and behevioral patterns, that cause troubles. Client is provoked by therapist to::
- Manifest self-appreciation – both verbally and nonverbally.
- Behave in an appropriate way in both actions and relationships.
- Protect himself in a realistic way.
- Engage in realistic testing of psychosocial reality and learn to distinguish things that are necessary to react in a flexible way. The gerneral pereption leads to generalized, stereotypical reactions and to perceptional recognisitions accounting for flexible, appropriate reactions.
- Engage in personal relationships associeted with risk and particularly to manifest in spontaneous and direct way one’s real emotions and tenderness towards people who are important for him or her. The words which are the most difficult say in relationships are usually: ‘I need you, I miss you, I care about you’ – the words expressing our divotion towards others. (“Provocative Therapy” Frank Farrelly, Jeff Brandsma.)